How to Be Sure of Oneself
Marie Squerciati Are you tired of feeling bad about yourself and want to choose to be confident? My friend, you’ve come to the right place. If you use these tips, you’ll start to see and believe that you’re beautiful.
Hello, it’s hard to be sure of yourself. Even more so now that social media has taken over our lives. One of the best feelings in the world is being sure of yourself. I hope this post helps you feel more sure of yourself.
1) Take a picture
Look through your pictures and pick one of yourself that you don’t like. Find good things about yourself in that photo instead of thinking about all the bad things. Saying things like “I like the color of my hair” is not a good idea. Look closely and find beauty in things you wouldn’t normally think of as beautiful.
Find that picture right away. I’m not kidding, it will help.
“I like that my smile is crooked because it shows that I’ve laughed a lot.” Say things you find hard to say. Even if your smile is crooked and you don’t like it, keep telling yourself that you do until you believe it. Look at that picture and find little things you like about yourself.
At first, it will feel strange, but if you keep doing it, it will get easier.
2) Tell the truth
Now that you’ve taken the picture. You will look at yourself in the mirror. I think we look at ourselves in the mirror way too much. Our minds start to spin out of control, and we start to notice little things about ourselves that we wish we could change. Do you want a smaller waist and bigger butts?
Stop wishing you looked different and be happy with the body that God has given you.
Okay, look in the mirror and tell yourself five good things about your body. After each one, say Psalm 139:14, which says, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Jesus made you, you’re one of a kind, and no one else is like you. No matter what other people say, He is God, and God never makes mistakes. Everything He has made is beautiful.
We are the most expensive things God owns on Earth.
You might not be able to say it yet, but you will get there. Just remember them. Switch out those bad thoughts with good ones.Don’t say anything bad about yourself. The tongue can make you live or die (Proverbs 18:21). You can use your words to make yourself and other people feel better. You can also use it in a way that hurts people. If you say bad things about yourself. This will make people wonder if that’s how they should take themselves or think about themselves. I don’t think that’s something you’d want for them.
3) Stop telling lies
Stop telling yourself you’re bad-looking. Stop telling yourself that you’ll be pretty when you lose weight. Stop falling for the lies that the devil tells you. Pick out the lies. Pray and ask Jesus to help you see the lies you’ve been telling yourself.
When you feel like you can’t breathe because of all the bad things you’re thinking about yourself, take a deep breath and pray. Ask Jesus to help you see how beautiful you are. Ask him for help to feel more sure of yourself. Ask him to make you stop believing the lies, and he will. Ask God to give you the strength you need to fight against lies.
Every time you tell yourself you’re ugly, you hurt your sense of self-worth. Every time you say to yourself, “I’d be more attractive if…” It hurts a part of who you are. It hurts you, and it hurts Jesus, too. He cares about you and knows what you’re going through. Jesus cares about you more than anything else. When someone you care about is sad, you feel sad too.
As soon as you start to fight the lies, your way of thinking will start to change. When you can see the lies you tell yourself about yourself, you will feel better about yourself.
If you are so weak that you can’t even think about the truth. Here are a few more:
Ephesians 2:10 says that you are God’s best work.
Philippians 4:13 says, “You are strong because Christ’s strength is in you.”
And I will say it again. Sister, DON’T compare yourself to others. That is bad, bad, bad.
Yes, it’s much easier to say than to do. But here are some ways to stop people from comparing.
Get rid of the thing that makes you compare the most.
Does social media cause you to compare your life to everyone else’s? You don’t have to keep looking at other people’s lives if they make you feel bad about your own. You decide who to follow, so if they don’t make you happy, you can stop following them.
I know it’s hard because you like being connected. But you won’t be sorry if you take a break from social media to stop comparing yourself to others. You might enjoy the time away from it because you won’t be getting as many lies through such a large opening.
Don’t hang out with people who make you compare yourself to other people.
If your friends often tell you, “I wish I looked like her,” don’t you wish you did, too? I would suggest that you move away from them. You don’t want to be close to people who make you compare yourself to other people. People who tell the truth are what you want. People who would help you change the way you think when you are having trouble with comparison.
Find people who will point you to Jesus when you’re having trouble.
If you hang out with people who aren’t sure of themselves, you’ll pick up some of their bad habits and thoughts. But, if you hang out with people who lift you and point you toward Jesus, you will pick up these habits.
Don’t hang out with people who put you down or say things that hurt you. Find good friends who will help you and pray for them. People who tell you the truth but don’t say it in a mean way.
Find people who help you feel good about yourself.
5) Don’t get your confidence from praise
Yes, it’s great when someone says something nice about you. It’s nice when someone goes out of their way to tell you that your outfit or makeup looks good. Putting people up is a great way to use compliments. When you say nice things about other people, you also feel good about yourself.It’s not good to base your confidence on what other people say about you. The first reason is that they won’t always say nice things. Second, they don’t always have something to say. Someone might not say anything nice to you for 3 months. Are you just going to sit around and wait for someone to compliment you because that’s where your confidence came from?
Don’t let people control your life that much.
If you don’t need other people to make you feel good about yourself, you’ll start living a healthier life.
6) Make a connection with Jesus
Jesus is the only reason I can be sure of myself. If you don’t ask Jesus for help, the tips above won’t help you at all. He can do what you can’t because He is stronger than you. He looks at you with love when you look in the mirror and can’t find anything good to say about yourself.
He made you, so, of course, you look good. You were made by the same God who made the most beautiful things on earth, such as sunsets, mountains, and the ocean. In His eyes, you are more important than all of those other things.
Everything changes when you get to know Jesus. You feel more sure of yourself and kinder, and you have more hope, peace, and grace. Because His spirit lives in you, you will start to have all of these things.
If you don’t know Him yet, you can start by telling Him, “Jesus, I’m a sinner who needs a savior. You died for my sins on the cross. I want to spend my life with you and for you. Without you, I can’t do this. Please come into my heart and rule my life. Now you still look for Him. Read the Bible and pray to find Him.
Talk to Jesus as if he were your friend.Tell Him everything you’re worried about. Ask Him to show you how to be sure of yourself.
He is standing right next to you. He will help you out. If you choose Him, you’ll feel more sure of yourself than you ever have. I
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7) Don’t be harsh.
I have a hard time not being judgmental. I’m so quick to judge someone who does something I wouldn’t do. I used to tell myself I wasn’t a judgmental girl because I couldn’t believe I could be like that. God opened my eyes and showed me that big sin I couldn’t see before. But now he is helping me and making me feel different. He helps me love more than anything else.
Anyway, I say that because judging other people is just a way to make yourself look better. You are saying, “Because I don’t do that, I’m better than them.” God is the only one who has the right to judge. We are told to love others as much as we love ourselves (Matthew 19:19).
When you judge, you feed your fears and doubts. By doing that, you’re making yourself feel bad at the end of the day. Be sure of yourself by choosing to love instead of judge.
Let’s both try to love instead of criticize.